zekesgotwheels:

stickyembraces:

Alice in post-structuralist land, #2

Probably the best blog I’ve found in a while.

Probably the best blog I *got pointed to by my awesome procrastinator girlface, more like. ;>

Another one of those late night ones.

Seems I’m back to “real life”. It’s after 3 in the morning [waiting for AFI hour, just because I can’t sleep] and for the first time in over a week I don’t have company, I don’t have an adventure to look forward to and I’m obviously back on tumblr.

There are so many things I want to say, so many things I want to show the world. But you know what, just being out there and living my life and not worrying so much for a week was so good.

I can not wait until it gets even better, I can not wait for summer, I can not wait for the weeks and months and even years to come. I haven’t felt like this in ages. This is due to so many great things and even greater people and although I’m obviously constantly worried and skeptical and side-eying the universe, it seems this year might not be so bad after all.

In other news, I found out that these exist:

http://fuckyeahchrisdos.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahchrishead.tumblr.com/

Yep, that’s two insta-follows right there. Especially the Head one because he’s my secret hero, and it warms my heart that there is a blog for him. I also apologise in advance for the A-F I’m going to undoubtedly spam on here. But then again I do not apologise at all.

Gay Bus

Dear Tumblr,

First things first: you may have noticed I’m not doing the thing with the 20 fandom-posts in a queue anymore. That’s because I’m actually a] trying to live a life b] still not cool with the copyright thing c] also trying to be more of an original-content-person. So I’ll like your stuff and maybe here and there reblog something epic. Cool? Cool.

Second: my baby Annso has a tumblr: annsoapples.tumblr.com and she’s amazing, and she makes the cutest art, so you should follow her.

Third: as you can see, my amazing boyface also has a tumblr and he writes beautiful words. [Insert story about duh he’s an English lit student and duh how can I not think they are beautiful I’m a word nerd I love words.]

But more importantly, they are very true words. They are words on issues that I also feel strongly about. [And also this video is amazing and everyone should watch it:]

zekesgotwheels:

So, there were these ads, right, put up by this wacked out insane-o-complex Christian group in the last couple of days that tried to purport the idea that homosexuality was a disease that could be cured. Here’s a link. (http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/apr/12/christian-anti-gay-ads-buses?INTCMP=SRCH)

Now, I don’t care where you come from, what ‘justification’ you have for believing in such a fact; if you truly believe that one person finding sexual and romantic pleasure in another of the same gender is a disease, do us all a favour. Remove yourself from the gene pool. I don’t care how you do it – snip your balls, ties your tubes, shotgun mouthwash -, whatever. This world, in all its beauty, will never ever sustain itself for your close minded ideology. Give up now. History has always proven that autocratic forms of social control provokes resistance – the Israelites in Egypt, the Irish under English rule, the Palestinians under Israeli oppression, to name three from an innumerable list – so change your way or recycle your body mass and oxygen into something more useful, please.

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It makes me horribly sad that we’re still stuck in this gender binary, which makes no sense, and that people almost always have to go through all this hurt, discomfort, shame, you-name-it, before they can finally open their eyes and realise that maybe whatever society tells us we are, isn’t who we actually are.

So here’s my story:

I too went through multiple phases of finding my identity. In fact, I went through multiple phases in my life where I hated girls’ clothes and loved playing only with “boy toys”, then a long rebellion against anything ‘too mainstream’ or ‘too girly’ [I didn’t want to be like “all the other girls”] happened. Does that signify anything? Maybe. To me, that just shows I was trying to find myself. I’ve always been touching the boundaries so to speak. Trying to find out the other end of the spectrum. ‘Not shaving’ was as easy a thing to believe in at 14 as ‘not eating meat’ in my mind. It is now a matter of personal preference, but it is still incredibly heartbreaking that there are girls out there who would love to do their own thing but just don’t - but that’s a rant on beauty standards I’m not going to shove down your throats. To make a long story short, not caring about your appearance in the same way as ‘the norm’ is a tricky thing to do in a privileged high school, but doing this at a young age probably helped me grow into the person I am right now. I knew I’d rather be proud of myself for doing what I believed in, than go with the flow and regret it because I was living a lie.

My first girlfriend was convinced I was one hundred per cent gay. I’ve always known I’m not. I’ve had mostly heterosexual relationships, yet I obviously also don’t identify as straight. I do however feel the same kind of hesitance towards speaking out for LGBTQ rights as my boyface here, because… well. Where do I fit in? I’m a white, privileged individual who is seemingly living a life that fit the heteronormative and thus don’t get any of the discredit. Living a ‘straight’ lifestyle most of the time doesn’t make you straight in identity, yet it doesn’t really give you the ‘right’ to speak against it. Does it?

I think what bothers me most, is that you can’t tell from the outside. And I’m conflicted. Because it damn well shouldn’t be! People’s gender or sexuality shouldn’t be an issue. Never. In whatever situation and whatever time. It’s 2012 now, we should know better than the ridiculous heteronormative. It shouldn’t matter what or who you are and who you are attracted to. It shouldn’t be able to be ‘seen on the outside’ because it should just not be an issue.

I am a very visual person and I like being outspoken and standing up for what I believe in. That’s why this is so frustrating. Because it’s about trying to make it acceptable for anyone in the world to do whatever they want to do without them feeling like they have to because not doing so is wrong. From the outside, it feels like I’m enforcing the norm: by wearing dresses and living a ‘straight’ lifestyle, whatever that is… 

I feel like I want to be part of the crowd that is trying to get their voices heard, but I feel like my voice doesn’t fit in with theirs all of the time. I still think that shouldn’t stop anyone from speaking out, so I’m glad the discussion is out there. I’m glad the campaign got pulled. I’m glad we’re slowly walking the path of progress.

And sometimes, just because two people fall in love have a different set of genitals, doesn’t make them straight. These people aren’t ill; they’re beautiful. They’re in love. They’re themselves.

I couldn’t have said it better myself. You are not sick in the slightest, if anything I think more people should be like you. Thank you for sharing your story. And I just wanted to say, I love you for who you are and I hope you know this and continue to believe in yourself like I believe in you.

I guess what matters in the end, is what you think. We can be ‘straight’ and believe in equality as much as we can be ‘not-straight’ and believe in equality. I think we should just be ‘us’ and never stop fighting for equality.

So that’s it. That’s my story and there’s no good way to end this, but hey. I have a billion words to write. Cheers.

You have no idea. This had been sitting in my drafts for months. Just waiting for the moment I could post this.

And today I feel it’s safe to say. A good fucking life. That’s what you’re doing to me, and I can’t express in words how happy that makes me and how thankful I am.

(Source: sydamarie)

challenging biphobia in the lesbian community

thesecretfemme:

 Diva magazine posted on their Facebook wall asking for lesbians who don’t date bisexual women to get in touch, because they want to run an article on why some lesbians remove bisexual women from their “dating pool”. So began a torrent of biphobia underneath the opening post, which included such gems as “you can’t trust that they won’t leave you for a bloke”, “it seems eventually they all go back to men. I guess it’s because it’s an easier, more accepted lifestyle” and even, “I don’t want to be with a woman who sleeps with or has slept with men”.

Bisexual women are regularly branded as experimenting straight girls, lesbians in denial (apparently it’s possible to be both), promiscuous (like there’s anything wrong with that if it’s the individual’s choice), confused, greedy, riddled with STI’s, cock hungry, flakey and dishonest.

 These stereotypes have been born out of heteronormative societal pressures (monogamy, fidelity, marriage, pro-creation, existence in a nuclear family) coupled with the bombardment of images of threesomes involving two women and one man in crap pornography, complete bi-erasure and the glamorisation in popular culture of women being sent out to catch unsuspecting lesbians to bring home to their waiting boyfriend.

 I’d like to challenge some stereotypes now using my experiences and observations, because I’ve never seen any representation in straight or gay culture of bi women like me. (And very little of bi people at all, for that matter.)

 I’m 22, boyish and bisexual. I prefer queer actually because I recognise things other than the two binary genders, but for the sake of talking about oppression and the insult I’ve faced in the last couple of days we’ll stick with bisexual.

 Most people assume I’m a lesbian because they can’t seem to get their head around the idea of a boyish girl liking boys. I’ve had two long term relationships, both with women. I lost my virginity to a woman in my teens; most of my dating and sexual experiences have been with women, although there’ve been a few with people who don’t consider themselves either gender.  I didn’t have sex with a man until I was 20, because I didn’t meet one I liked enough until then. I’ve never cheated, or left a female partner for a man, or even considered doing so. If I did, it wouldn’t be caused by my sexuality.

I’ve never once felt that it would be easier to be in a heterosexual relationship with a man for the sake of enjoying heterosexual privileges. I would never entertain the idea of leaving a woman/third gender/non-gender person I love to be with a man I didn’t love for the sake of social acceptance.

 I’m not particularly greedy when it comes to intimate relationships, or even sex most of the time. An ex who is bisexual told me once: “yeah, I am greedy. But I’m greedy cos I’m greedy, not cos I’m bi!”

 A lot of my friends who define as lesbian have admitted to me that they feel attraction towards men but choose not to pursue such attractions, for whatever reason. This is of course their choice, but is surely and indication that bisexuality or bisexual patterns of attraction are way more common than people think. Women are simply keeping it quiet because of the inordinate amount of biphobia there is amongst the lesbian community. The culture of making queer women who find themselves interested in a man feel like they are betraying the community really has to stop.

 Lesbians who don’t date bi women because they think they’ll run off with a guy to make up this mythical “cock deficit” so many people seem to be obsessed with, should ask themselves why they are so insecure that they think a partner would leave them for five and a half inches of erectile tissue. I’ve had cock, in several forms and scenarios, flesh and silicone, and to be honest, the idea that someone would leave a healthy relationship purely because they miss cisgender male cock is one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever heard.

Society, straight and gay, need to stop seeing vagina as the absence of a penis. Why doesn’t anyone entertain the idea that someone might leave a man to make up for the lack of vagina in their life?  It’s an example of how patriarchy permeates.   

Should we all start to be suspicious of the straight and bisexual women/female identified partners of transmen? What’s their game eh?

No! How bloody insulting and idiotic.

 Lesbians who would be more hurt by a partner leaving them for a man than they would if they were left for another woman should ask themselves why they see heterosexual sex as more legitimate than lesbian sex. It’s devaluing the connection made between two women. Pretty sad, and as bad, inaccurate and offensive as the heternormative society you keep accusing bisexual women of pandering to.

 If someone cheats on you it’s because they’re dishonest, or cowardly, or selfish. Or drunk. Or because there isn’t enough trust in the relationship for them to approach you to discuss their attraction to someone else and what can be done about it. Or maybe you don’t treat them well and they’re looking for love elsewhere. People cheat for all sorts of reasons. They do not cheat because of their sexuality any more than they cheat because their hair is brown and their eyes are blue.

 It’s so upsetting and downright wrong that there are lesbians who are willing to be so prejudiced towards an entire group of people who are only linked by one thing; who they are attracted to. Surely the years of fighting for our right to love who we love should mean that such attitudes are not welcome in the LGBT community? Bisexual people stand side by side with lesbians, gay men, queers and trans people in the fight for equal rights, and the last thing we need is our own community turning on us, or treating us like we have a disease.

 

Reblogging because it’s really worth reading again and again and again.
If only to make people think.

bullshitopportunist:

limbo champion of the world. actually just a photo taken at a strange moment. 

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So what happens when I leave tumblr land for a while?

DOS ENDS UP GETTING A TUMBLR AND IT ENDS UP BEING GLORIOUS! Go check out and follow, my friends.


I soooooo wish I could take my beast of a camera to Anti-Week, because I’m sure I would end up with many many great photos.

What is Anti-Week you ask? Oh it’s only very soon. It’s when first there are two A-F performances at Groezrock, then two nights of crazyness on May 1 and 2, and then the glorious Anti-Fest on May 3rd. It’s also known as ChrisTwomas Come Early. YEAAHHHH!

(Source: poppunksnotdead182)

It’s pretty much RULE that my companions watch Doctor Who with me - even if I have to introduce it to them and turn them into fangirls. IT’S THE RULE THAT DOESN’T FAIL AND WHEN SOMEONE NEW COMES ALONG AND SAYS “WANNA WATCH DOCTOR WHO?” I don’t have to think twice because Doctor Who is always interesting and watching with a companion is the best thing ever and me having a guy propose that to me is like BEST. THING. EVER. the end.

(Source: stephwinchester)

Being Human episodes 4x03-07

So… I haven’t made bullet lists for the past few episodes because I was busy living life buttttt tonight is the finale and SO! Time to catch up on one big bullet list of thoughts so far and a bit of speculation :D :D :D fun.

• HAL! Oh man. What an emotional roller coaster you have been to us! First, we were unsure of you. Then we saw your half naked body and your charm and wit and we fell in love with you. Then you got the burn and we felt sorry for you. NOW! Now, I’m just terrified. More on that later.
• I just have to get it out of the way: that goth chick was both excruciatingly annoying and brilliant. She was brilliant precisely because she was so horribly annoying. Too bad she took the crazy vampire with her :< I liked him.
• Although that episode was pretty good, especially toward the end. Action! Dynamics! Tom and Hal being brilliant. ♡
• CUTLER! is now definitely one of my favourites this season. More on him later.
• The Kirby episode was amazing. Hal was amazing. Tom was amazing. Annie was amazing. Kirby was also amazing. It was a really really brilliant episode. Obviously the gay dads scene was terrific! ♡ ♡ ♡
• The Adam episode was good. I was unsure at first, but it’s definitely really well done. The idea of the succubus. The housemates looking inward more. I didn’t really care for the press thing at first, they could’ve worked on that a liiiittle bit more. But then when Cutler got to be epic and that stupid journalist went stupid… Oh man. Hal and Annie teamwork was really nice to see.
• The episode after this one wasn’t too great. The redeeming factor being Allison. Allison won that episode for me. I really didn’t care much for Annie or Hal’s stories. Tom and Allison [and Cutler] stole it for me. Okay, Hal’s story turned out to be important and that’s great and all and of course he was amazing doing whatever he was doing, but it wasn’t the best. Then Annie… I guess she needed a door to meet up with Eve, but that whole thing could have been handled better.
• Brings me to EVE! Holy. I don’t get how killing herself before the old ones even arrive would make any difference? But but but the thing that really scares me is the implication that she has to get past Annie. Is Annie going to be written out? All the questions!
• Alex… I liked her attitude as a ghost. I did not like her one bit when she was alive. Funny, how that works. But since Hal promised to ‘sort her out’, I hope they show that.
• To come back to Hal, it ended on a major cliffhanger, didn’t it? I’m trying not to think about it.
• CUTLER’S BACKSTORY! SOOO GOOOOD! I love how we also saw more of Hal, but through Cutler. What a bastard. And Cutler is such a genius villain just because he’s so rubbish [but also brilliant] at it.
• But I’m sure Tom and Cutler will be geniuses in this episode. I especially have high hopes for Tom and I hope he sticks around a bit. Hal too, but… Anyway, if we make it past the vampirocalypse, I hope Tom and Allison get a chance. They made a most adorable pair. ♡ If not… well, then I hope the series ends on a good note. Obviously. I’m a bit scared because Torchwood totally went weird and short after their two amazing series, and it kind of feels a bit like that, but not totally because this series has been pretty flawless and amazing and a very good follow-up to the end of series 3… But I’m not sure where they want to go next?
• I was hoping for 13 episodes. I was a bit surprised to find it all going so fast!! u_u
• And now I don’t have any patience anymore and I want it to be tonight already and aaaaahhhhhhhh!!

note to self

GIVE UP ON SPOTIFY

Your OCD will cause you to make sad faces at your last.fm all day. Not good. Not good.

FM Static - Hey Now

[Hi, nice to meet you, I’m Vief, I’m a total sap. I’ve been listening to this song on repeat 4-5 times now. YEAHHH!

Or, yaaayeuhh.]

Relevant to my life: check.

Every minute I’m not with you I hope I see you soon: check.

There’s just something that happens when you walk into the room: check.

And you give me this feeling: check.

It’s like no other feeling: check.

It knocks me off my feet: check.

It just kind of happened somehow: check.

Please don’t ask me what I like about you ‘cause it’s every little thing you do: check.

givgiv:

I find myself identifying with Hal. Probably because of the OCD.

I seem not to be giving myself time to do a bullet list but allow myself to reblog. OH MAN LOOK AT HIS FACE :< :< :< and I find myself identifying with Hal as well. His OCD > George’s OCD.

Have I mentioned how much I’m INTO THIS BAND RIGHT NOW yet?

They are glorious and that “realist pop punk” tag is kind of exactly why I feel like these boys are going to dominate my 2012.

(Source: sheiswe)

dasselbstgesprach:

RENT Filmed Live on Broadway

(It’s the entire thing!)

1:05:15 onwards = my life. :D :D :D MY LIFE IS RENT WHEEEEE

It’s not like I don’t have this on my laptop. But finding this is glorious. IT’S GLORIOUS. But now I wanna watch Rent all day. Duh.

thecreamsodaloveletter:

Sneaky picture of me from this weekend at Hyper Japan!

Ahhh you looked so lovely! I came to the Cyberdog stall and talked to your coworker, also so very lovely and with amazing style ♡ You were busy and I didn’t dare speak to you, heehee. So I will say it over Tumblr: you looked amazing and hopefully next time I’ll get the chance to say hi! Hope you don’t mind if I come stalk your tumblr and instagram now! :]

upon the 27th hour of being awake

[cheated a little, couldn’t help from nodding off slightly once the lecturer dimmed the light and it was time for Shakespearean quotations, aiai]

I locked myself out of the house

I, who leaves the key in the lock upon not forgetting it

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THIS IS NOT GOING TO PLAN GUYS

seven billion more things to do, gotta dash.